link to the original donation thread: Please Help My Sister
So i haven't posted in here for awhile. A LOT has happened. My sister is still well, and getting better every day. she went in for another procedure last week to have her shunts taken out because her body was trying to reject them. Addison is doing well too, still on a very intense iron diet so she throws up a lot and farts a lot and has constipation issues, but nothing serious. she does have to wear a helmet for two months sadly though, which is a common issue with a lot of babies.
on to the bad....
This kid DJ who they assumed was the father was not. This guy used to be a lot of trouble, he caused a huge falling out between my sister and my dad a few years ago because he was not a good person, had my sister doing drugs and what not. Well apparently 6 months before her incident they were on a break and both seeing other people, and at some point they had hooked up at a party and slept together. a few months later my sister was pregnant, and they both just assumed he was the dad. Well in the last month she was in the hospital one of her friends brought up the fact that she has slept with another guy so my sister asked for a paternity test. Her being in the state she was the case worker demanded that DJ did it, and the hospital would pay for it. Well he ducked 3 different appointments costing the hospital almost $1200, so finally they got fed up, and refused to dish out another $400 for him to get it done. Somehow they still allowed him to leave the hospital with Addison without even being sure if he was the dad. He took the baby and they said he HAD to bring her to the hospital everyday for her to bond with Lyndsay, that's very important when a baby is that young. Well he only brought her twice in 3 weeks. So my family started to get a bad vibe from him at this point. He finally went and get the paternity test done and paid for it himself (and complained about it by the way) and turns out he wasn't the dad. So he was then forced the relinquish the baby back to my sister and father. This is where shit started to hit the fan. He made my dad give him $500 before he would let go of any of the babies stuff (cribs, strollers, clothes, etc..) and lyndsays stuff. My dad being the pacifist he is he forked it over. DJ didnt pay for ANYTHING it all came from the baby shower. He became difficult and wouldn't return any of my dads calls, or my aunts calls about getting together to change Addisons last name to ours, he fell off the map so now my dad has to take him to court to do it. We found out he didnt ever set up lyndsays disability like he said he did, he let her verizon phone bill go delinquent, so she now has a $1000 debt in collection for it, he returned her car COMPLETELY thrashed with no oil in it and cigarette butts EVERYWHERE and rotten fruit on the backseat. he spent over $1500 out of her personal bank account and over drafted it, that was in collection too. and to top it all off, HE SPENT THE ENTIRE GOFUNDME ACCOUNT!!!!!!! almost $9000 disappeared and he closed the account. He claimed "it went towards their rent and things lyndsay wanted" well my sister was in the hospital for about 3 months and her share of the rent was $400 a month.... So my sister is recovering from a brain aneurysm with a newborn baby and absolutely no money, and in debt!! This mother ****er took her to the cleaners. He later heard some bullshit rumor that my dad was gonna put Addison up for adoption so he went on facebook and posted a picture of my dad and said "if you see this piece of shit spit in his face". My sister and him also had a dog together but the dog was chipped in her name, he obviously took the dog when all of this was going on. well i got a call the other day from animal services saying they have her dog and that they had to rescue him out of a hot car, he was left in for over an hour with the windows up and when they pulled him out he had a temperature of 109 degrees and was vomiting blood, so they were hoping lyndsay could take the dog so that they wouldn't have to give the dog back to DJ. So now we are dealing with that too. This guy is the definition of shit bag, he is laying low and moved ( probably used my sisters donation to do it ) so no one can find him but im now in contact with the investigator from animal services and am trying to get his address, so my dad can at least subpoena him. This is just a bit of a rant for me because i struggle with it day to day and am worried for the day when i see him and i snap.