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I am not a licensed phy-what ever-ist. Don't I have to say that? or read at own risk.

I can't remember everything I've been thinking of recently after my wife's uncle took his own life Monday May 9, 2016; so this will probably be a multiple post/ out of order.. blog? I dunno what to call it. His name was Tommy Prejean and was 52 years old with two adult daughters and his wife Roxanne. I was pretty close to him these last two years and he was battling depression from all of the bad things he's done in life. I tried telling him that we are all bad people and not to beat himself up about it. He was very prideful and belittled people his whole life. Why? Maybe it built his pride up even higher and he felt superior to them. He was a manager at a food company. We talked a lot about God( uh oh I hope I didn't lose you on that one) and we agreed about so much about where real happiness comes from. But don't take my word for it. Da dunt dunt! Sorry about that. That last deep conversation I had with him was basically me telling him that I was unsure if all of it was real and I feel terrible, like I had a very small percent in his death. I could've, and most likely was, been the only person that talked about God and how great, real, patient, forgiving etc. he is. Can anyone let me know how they feel about that. You can pm me. I promise I won't share your response with this thread and I hope it doesn't get deleted(mods please put in the appropriate category if not already). I want this to help people cope with suicial thoughts or the lost of a loved one. I'm going to look up some things to help and post when I find it. Also forgive me about trying to be funny one second and serious the other. It's a strange way I deal with feeling sad.

I'm editing this post only to share some great info that's from the link below.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...cidal-thoughts

Some of the thoughts that may accompany suicidal thoughts include:
• I want to escape my suffering.
• I have no other options.
• I am a horrible person and do not deserve to live.
• I have betrayed my loved ones.
• My loved ones would be better off without me.
• I want my loved ones to know how bad I am feeling.
• I want my loved ones to know how bad they have made me feel.

Whatever thoughts you are having, and however bad you are feeling, remember that you have not always felt this way, and that you will not always feel this way.
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Sorry for your loss bro.
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its always tough losing people that way, i was never one to let things get me down like that so its really hard for me to understand why people take their lives in such sad ways. ill keep my opinion to myself in any case, and commend you for taking the time for helping out people who arent as fortunate to keep their mind so solid.
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IMO everyone at one time or another has thought about suicide for one reason or another. Very sorry to hear of your loss. It was sonic's nephew's post about his stroke that made us friends...he really looked up to Tom and it melted my heart enough to kick monies for his recovery...sounds like you loved him as much too...hang in there and never say never...we're all hangin by a thread
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Heroin addiction for way too many years took me so close, just to end withdrawal pains.
I'm still here but I will tell you I was so close, so many times. I could have made an easy out, so many times.
My point is, the other side looks looks better than we, as outsiders see. Depresssion and addiction share many traits, I'm not saying he was an addict. The person suffering is going through more than most people can fathom. It is a slippery slope. I've been there.

I am very sorry for your loss and I know his and your pain. I have lost many good people to addiction, mostly they were depressed 1st and self medicatated themselves to the grave 2nd.

My positive thoughts go out to you and the family since I'm not the religious type.
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Sorry for your loss bro.
Thank you. We got close in the last year of his life. i didnt know he was that sad.

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its always tough losing people that way, i was never one to let things get me down like that so its really hard for me to understand why people take their lives in such sad ways. ill keep my opinion to myself in any case, and commend you for taking the time for helping out people who arent as fortunate to keep their mind so solid.
Thank you. I really want to do something on a bigger scale to draw awareness to the signs people give when contemplating suicide. I just found out today that he's said on multiple occasions that "they'd be better off without me" and I wish I would've known he said that because he never did to me.

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IMO everyone at one time or another has thought about suicide for one reason or another. Very sorry to hear of your loss. It was sonic's nephew's post about his stroke that made us friends...he really looked up to Tom and it melted my heart enough to kick monies for his recovery...sounds like you loved him as much too...hang in there and never say never...we're all hangin by a thread
ill have to check that post out. Where would it be? Thank you for the support. I did love him and I wish I would've said it physically. My dad and I don't have the relationship where we talk about feelings or hug, but two days before this death, my ex brother in laws dad passed from a heart attack and I was really close with my bro in law and after that I told my dad I love him and he said it back(we were on the phone).


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Heroin addiction for way too many years took me so close, just to end withdrawal pains.
I'm still here but I will tell you I was so close, so many times. I could have made an easy out, so many times.
My point is, the other side looks looks better than we, as outsiders see. Depresssion and addiction share many traits, I'm not saying he was an addict. The person suffering is going through more than most people can fathom. It is a slippery slope. I've been there.

I am very sorry for your loss and I know his and your pain. I have lost many good people to addiction, mostly they were depressed 1st and self medicatated themselves to the grave 2nd.

My positive thoughts go out to you and the family since I'm not the religious type.
Keep your head up!
Thank you. I've heard about the withdrawal pains and I hope to never experience them. He was high strung and his weed kept him mellow for most of his life. He stopped smoking over a year ago and recently started taking anti depressants. Less than a month ago they upped his dosage. I'm not sure what it was specifically, but I'm gonna do some research on it when I find out. And thank you his wife decided to stay at the house and not sell, but she wants to change a few things. His older daughter is handling it better than the younger, but they were able to sleep at the house one day after it happened.
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