Originally Posted by 3rdshiftdiscretion
im 20... kinda young i know. idk first time in a long time im with my buddies and i cant even relax.
and it was gradual. i used to party all the time and now i cant even relax at my own house and drink a beer. stress levels are high. stopped smoking for her, all i want is a cig
You gotta ask yourself, what's more important to you, her or the other stuff?
My gf and I have been together for almost 4 years now, when we met we were both crazy party animals that drank too much. We both did things that upset each other, but we talked about it, compromised, and have worked through it. Now we're older and that sort of stuff is a distant memory.
At some point you grow up (for most people), are you going to be more upset that she's not in your life still, or that you didn't stay partying for as long as possible? You can only have a mature relationship if both people are on the same page. The gf I had before her, I wasn't there yet. She wanted to have kids, I wanted to have parties. Wasn't gonna work. My current gf is on the same page as me that we need to focus on our careers first, and worry about families and stuff later.